JAKARTA - Healthy relationships have one sign that is often ignored, but in fact it is very decisive whether the relationship can last long or not. This was revealed by psychologist and couples counselor, Baya Voce.
Voce said the sign is mutual influence. This term means that two people in a relationship are willing to listen to each other and let the needs and perspectives of their partners influence their attitudes and behaviors.
"Mutual influence means you are willing to let your partner's needs, vulnerabilities, and perspectives shape you, even changing something in your own behavior," Voce said, quoted by CNBC, on Monday, December 15, 2025.
According to Voce, this sign is rarely seen in the early stages of a relationship. In the early days, everyone tends to show the best version of themselves to their partner.
English:
The mutual influence sign usually appears when there is a difference of opinion in a relationship. How a person responds to the difference is often the determinant of whether or not mutual influence in a relationship is true.
"This quality usually appears when there is tension or disagreement, not when relations are going well," he said.
Some attitudes that show mutual influence in relationships are simple as follows.
- Put down your phone when your partner wants to talk- Change small plans for the sake of your partner's comfort- Adjust the way you talk when you have a different opinion- Give space when your partner needs support
Mutual influence does not mean always giving in or losing one's identity. However, by giving room for differences, without making one party feel neglected, then the relationship is healthy and each party feels heard and valued.
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