JAKARTA - In our society, it is often a habit of asking or commenting on couples who do not have children after marriage. In fact, this can be an emotional burden for couples who are struggling or choosing to postpone the presence of their children.
It is important for us to be wiser in commenting and respecting the decisions of each couple. Not everyone is comfortable discussing the topic, and not all the reasons we can understand from outside.
Family psychologist from the University of Indonesia, Sani B Hermawan, emphasized the importance of wise attitude when responding to the condition of couples who have not been blessed with children. He reminded that comments that seem trivial can actually be an additional pressure, especially if they are conveyed without understanding the true background.
"Don't just comment on couples who don't have children, because we never really know if they are waiting for the right time or are having a hard time," Sani said as quoted by ANTARA.
According to him, negative comments often come from people closest to you, such as family or friends, who unconsciously put psychological pressure on them. In fact, the couple may have tried or are not ready, both mentally and financially.
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Sani also suggested that cornering comments be avoided because they could worsen your partner's emotional condition. They can feel more depressed, especially if they have not succeeded in having children even though they have been waiting for a long time.
If a couple does decide to postpone pregnancy for certain reasons, such as mental or financial readiness, they have the right to convey the decision in a polite and open manner. If the decision is mature, there is no need to be afraid to respond to other people's comments. For example, you could say, we are still delaying, maybe next year, without feeling inferior or intimidated, "explained Sani.
He added that in domestic life, every couple has the full right to determine the right time to have children. This decision can be influenced by various factors, such as the demands of work or the desire to prepare everything so that children can grow in ideal conditions.
To support the plan to postpone pregnancy, Sani suggested that couples use the contraceptive methods that were mutually agreed upon. If you really plan not to have children, you should use the right contraceptives such as condoms, spirals, or calendar methods, depending on the comfort and agreement between the two parties," he concluded.
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