Without Awareness Of His Parents, These 6 Things Are Absorbed By Children

Illustration of things that children absorb without realizing their parents (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Without parents realizing it, children absorb many things. Given the importance of understanding so that parents can teach good behavior, then know the list of things that children absorb without realizing the following parents.

As parents, you may intend to avoid conflict or argument with your partner in front of your children. But subtile gestures, recognized by children. Like when you answer sweetly but raise your eyes or turn your eyes towards your partner with a cynical look. This nonverbal signal can be caught by the children.

"Children pay attention to this dynamic, so try your best to praise the parents and other caregivers around your child -even if they are in another room," said clinical psychologist Jazmine totaled by Huffpost, Thursday, June 12.

This nonverbal signal is related to security, confidence, attention, being emotionally connected to her caregiver, and anxiety.

Like non-verbal signs, children really catch how adults talk about their own bodies and other people's bodies. Says dietist Alyssa Miller, children can catch subtle actions and draw conclusions about the body. Children learn what is considered good and bad, desired and undesirable.

The way you as a parent view yourself in the mirror, is absorbed by your children. They pay attention to your actions, for example about how you dress. In daily actions, adults constantly show children how to view their own bodies. So, start considering how you comment or watch other people. Because children tend to be more sensitive than many adults think.

Children pay attention to and absorb what their parents really appreciate based on words and behavior. The values taught by children are obtained from observing the behavior of their parents.

According to clinical psychologist Laura Markham, regardless of what you teach your children consciously, they will grow up from childhood with a clear view of what you really value. Through this view, children absorb a value system. So to develop well, if you ever lie to get a cheaper ticket price, make sure you don't do it because your child will absorb the value of this behavior.

"We need to articulate our values to ourselves and then to our children not only once, but repeatedly, apply these values to the daily dilemma facing our children," added Markham.

Children are able to catch how their parents give and receive compassion. Miller explained, children learn how adults deal with mistakes, self-talk, unrealistic expectations, and perfectionist tendencies.

Parents who are harsh on themselves, accidentally teach their children to be critical and harsh on themselves. On the other hand, parents who are gentle on themselves, will admit mistakes, self-resilience, use mistakes as a lesson, and this is a subtile behavior that your children absorb.

Children pay attention to adult eating habits in their lives as well as the way they talk about food. Parents and other caregivers directly affect the choices of food made by children and the beliefs they develop about food.

Comments of good' and bad' food as well as a sense of guilt about food, are internalized through observations. Miller said research shows children tend to eat the same food as their parents. So for parents, it is advisable to exemplify a balanced and positive approach to food.

How to talk about something bad, or talk about other people, you have to think wisely. The reason is, children can understand the negative facts about what is happening. Maybe your child doesn't understand technically what is happening. But sarcastic comments, complaining, criticizing, or chatting about something negative, it is understood that children can negatively affect their self-esteem and relationships with others.

That's what children absorb without their parents realizing. For parents, it is important to understand the list above. It is also important to always learn to be a good and wise parent in attitude and daily behavior in front of children.