Apart From Love, Here Are 5 Ways You Can Maintain A Marriage

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JAKARTA - Every married couple, of course, want a long-term relationship to old age and separated by death. If you only imagine the sweet things, you might think that your life for years, even decades, with your partner will always be beautiful and romantic.

However, the reality is that married life is not always as beautiful as you imagine. Not that it is unhappy, but there are also many difficulties that must be faced together. After married, you will feel love is not enough to maintain a relationship. Make sure your relationship is colored by the following five things:

Study together

While dating, you and your partner experience several problems in the relationship. After marriage, problem after problem will remain and must be dealt with and resolved properly.

As a team, you and your partner should always learn to be in situations and conditions that you have just experienced, problems, or domestic drama.

When you both have the desire to learn and adapt, your relationship will have a greater chance of lasting longer. However, if one party does not do so, of course there is also a big risk of separating.

Listen to each other

Even though you are married and feel that you know your partner more deeply, it doesn't mean you know everything. Hence, it is important to remain a good listener for your partner. This is a trivial matter, but sometimes people forget. You and your partner can respect each other when someone tells a story or complains by listening as well as possible. Not just listened to while busy by yourself.

Quality time

When you are dating, you will imagine good days with your partner and you will have a lot of time together because you live together. In fact, after marriage, you and your partner can still be busy with each other's activities. It's important to make time to be alone.

You and your partner can make regular schedules to go out of the house together, watch movies at the movies, have dinner, and have a vacation. This quality time must be endeavored so that both of you are always connected from time to time.

Mutual support

People will always have unexpected desires from time to time. As long as it makes sense and doesn't have a negative impact on the relationship, you can continue to support each other. Because, as individuals, you and your partner also need to continue to develop and pursue something that does not always have to do with household.

Be patient when things go wrong

The way to survive in a marriage relationship is to increase patience. There will always be problems, and there will also be solutions. So, be patient when faced with uncomfortable situations. If you need time to calm down, step away from home for a while, even seek help from a psychologist or marriage counselor, it's okay to do so as long as it's a joint decision.