Uncovering The Reasons Behind The Silence Of Men When Arguing With Their Partners
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JAKARTA - Differences in a relationship are common. If it is not addressed wisely, these differences can lead to quarrels. If one party responds to the debate with an attitude of not wanting to lose, then it is inevitable that the other party must be calmer to mediate an atmosphere that is not conducive. Usually, this role will be filled by the males.

However, when a man chooses to remain silent when he is arguing with a woman, it is all for some reason. What are the reasons behind the silence of men when arguing with women?

Don't want to make unilateral decisions

When men prefer to be quiet when arguing, it is not showing defeat. However, they wanted to give in to maintain the relationship. A man realizes that if he also maintains his ego when arguing, just like what women do, then his relationship may run aground at any time. For that, men prefer silence to calm their ego for the sake of harmonious relations with the woman they love.

Getting tired of partner's attitude

It could be that men choose to be quiet when arguing because they are tired of their partner's attitude. Women love to be given attention by their partners. Sometimes, one way to get your partner's attention is to ask for a fight.

If a lack of attention is always the reason for the fight, then he may feel uncomfortable and tired of the fight. If you have this, he will not hesitate to leave his partner.

Don't want to make the problem bigger

In men's dictionaries, giving in is one way of holding back anger for a moment that will bring harm to the relationship. Men choose to be silent when they argue, not because they are afraid, but they don't want to exaggerate the problem at hand. Because they realized that if the problem was magnified, there was a possibility that the relationship could end. They try to give in and choose to be silent when they argue because they want to maintain the relationship.

Don't want to hurt

Men choose to be quiet when arguing because they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings. If a man is already swayed by emotions that cause them to lose control, it is very worrying that he will say harshly and badly behave rudely that will hurt his partner. Because you cannot take back the words that you have said, men choose to remain silent when arguing.


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