What Should Be Talked To Couples About Sex? Check Out The 5 Tips

Illustration of what needs to be discussed with partners around sex (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA For new partners, talking about sex will feel awkward. However, every couple needs to be open about their own intimate life. In fact, sex life will not reach its peak until you and your partner master conversations about sex. Like how experiences have been experienced, the most preferred game, and what makes orgasm or ejaculation. According to certified sex coach and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life, Gigi Engle, here are the tips.

"You can't have a good sex life without communication," said Engle as quoted by Cosmopolitan, Wednesday, December 20. By communicating, you and your partner can tell about your needs, desires, and desires. For example, how you and your partner like to be touched, what part to touch, or how to touch it.

Every thing about sex preferences is important to articulate. It's like completing a big project with your partner. As much as possible, express in detail. That way, relationships related to intimacy between the two can be even more fun.

If you are a newly married couple, then be prepared to discuss everything with your partner. Kara Engle, you both have to have the same understanding. In particular, you and your partner need to answer questions about what sexual relations means. Once you have the same understanding, find out when your partner and IMS tested. This is important to do to get healthy sex. Engle's message, mini core conversations must be held in a safe place, away from the bedroom, and make sure it is based on honesty and openness.

In addition to what Engle recommends above, it's also important for you and your partner to chat about a fun topic that will take your sex life to its next level. Engle's recommendation, two simple but questions must be answered are about how you like to be touched and what you can do to make you feel good. Well, if you include a certain sex style, it's important to communicate with each other. Talk about words that are safe, boundaries, and what you like or not.

Stages may be felt for new couples especially when talking about intimate things, such as sex. So make the atmosphere fun. Be cheerful, say the sentences carefully, and be curious. Try to start a conversation from a fun part. Angle recommends, ask about how best sex and your partner's fantasy are. Besides being important, it is also knowing your favorite sex position, favorite toys, and sex preferences.

There's nothing to keep a secret from your partner about the sex experience you've experienced before. But it depends on the situation, if you have a bad past experience, prepare yourself before talking to your partner. So when to start talks about this sex? According to Engle, have conversations about sex before you do. Why do you have to do it before sex, because you have to make sure you're in a safe environment and trust each other with someone who will respect your boundaries.

In addition to choosing a safe place to talk about private matters, it is also important to have moments and a comfortable way. If you or your partner are more comfortable chatting about sex via text, that's okay, said Engle. With text, or electronic messages, it's a neutral and best way to put forward something you like when having sex.

Those are tips from experts to openly talk about sex with a partner. It is important to know, healthy communication helps all aspects of life. So, communicate well aspects of your sexual life with your partner.