JAKARTA - Clinical psychologist who graduated from the University of Indonesia Tara de Thouars, BA, M.Psi provides tips for children to deal with elderly parents based on their dominant emotions, such as anxiety, sadness and anger.
"What we need to pay more attention to is what emotions he usually feels the most dominant, is anxiety, anger, sadness. Because facing these three emotions is a different way," he said.
If his emotions are dominant, he is anxious, such as worrying about the future, then the child can deal with it by providing a sense of security because this is what parents need.
"When facing anxious people, what is needed is a sense of security. That means, 'It's okay, ma'am, I'm here. If the money has not been found. 'It's okay ma, mama doesn't need that much money'," said Tara, giving an example, reported by ANTARA.
But if the emotions of parents are dominated by sadness, which is usually more despair, such as saying that he is no longer useful or meaningful, how to deal with it by giving him praise that raises his confidence.
"If that's the case, it means we need to raise our parents. 'Mama is good at cooking, I can't cook either'," said Tara.
Meanwhile, if parents tend to show anger such as feeling that they are not ready for the elderly, then children can help them to accept their condition. Tara said stress is a normal thing experienced by a person as various changes such as physical so that maybe not everyone and the elderly can accept their condition properly.
He advised, if the emotions of parents are unstable, it indicates that they have not been able to adapt to their conditions, so it is important for children and those around them not to be offended or upset.
"If we bring it personally, we will get carried away by our own emotions and this makes us stressed," said Tara.
He said, a person can feel frustrated when they are no longer able to do the physical activities they can do when they are young. For that it is very important for someone who enters the elderly to stay active while maintaining social interaction.
According to him, this is the key to happiness. According to Tara, one thing that can be done to be happy is to continue to do hobbies or learn new things that can stimulate cognition skills so that they can support mental health.
"With a healthy physique and good self-motiveness, age is not an obstacle to staying productive and working," said psychologist Tara de Thouars.
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