Parents Need To Know, Here Are 4 How To Prevent Child Motivation

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YOGYAKARTA Parents may be frustrated when their children have no motivation and just give up on the challenges they face. In any challenge, such as doing complicated tasks to being more independent in completing homework, maybe children are struggling with unampowerability and even anger. So if children do not have motivation and are stagnant, then parents need to provide the right support.

Motivated teenagers, may be a tough challenge for parents. Launching Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D. in Psychology Today, Wednesday, February 1, teenagers in particular, are independent individuals with their desires and needs. However, to inspire their motivation, here are Bernstein's suggestions that you can practice.

When they experience difficulties to give up and lose motivation, try to listen to their worries or ideas. Parents need to show that their opinions are valued. Also make sure the solutions they offer are safe. Their idea, in fact, will be in accordance with the growing needs and desires. That is, listen to the ideas children offer and they will choose the solutions they need.

When teenagers or more adults decide to stop learning music and want to take lessons in foreign languages, then try to be more critical. The criticality of parents is not to break the child's desire but to make them more responsible for their choice. That way, they will dig deeper into their knowledge, whether it matches or not these choices with their future educational plans. Until other knowledge is related to accountability for the offers they will make.

Perseverance refers to long-term goals. This ability to be consistent and persistent cannot even be separated from difficulties. But perseverance can be developed, strengthened, trained, and reflected. So, to help children identify their struggles, praise their perseverance. That way, children will feel calmer and excited to get better.

Give your child space and freedom to make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes. Let them solve their problems and offer guidance rather than rush with solutions. Show trust in their ability and decision-making. Communicate openly and actively listen to their thoughts and ideas.

In the end, the most important thing that needs to be considered is the way parents motivate their children to maintain positive and supportive relationships. Parents also need to make sure they are always there for them when they need help.