Let's Return To Harmony, Overcome Immediately 6 Signs That A Couple's Relationship Is Starting To Be Unhealthy

Illustration of signs that a couple's relationship is starting to get unhealthy (Unsplash/Yolanda Suen)

YOGYAKARTA – The relationship between two people may not be as smooth as imagined. The beginning of a relationship, warm and flowery describes a harmonious relationship. Over time, ups and downs may occur. The problems that plagued it could not be predicted from the start. That is, when you start to feel something is not healthy in a relationship with a partner, immediately overcome it.

According to Jason Whiting, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist and professor at Birmingham Young University, even the brightest and most passionate marriages have problems. Before it does any permanent damage, here are some warning signs that your relationship is starting to become unhealthy and needs to be 'back on track'.

1. Relationships are getting distant

It's natural that selfishness makes love fade. However, couples still have the opportunity to color again with emotional closeness. A study reported by Psychology Today, Friday, June 3, shows that dating couples are like rock climbing. Because building emotional closeness and affection during the first eight weeks is not as simple as having a romantic dinner. Whiting's recommendation, if you lose your love, do things together and be nice. So soon love will return.

Illustration of signs that a couple's relationship is starting to get unhealthy (iStockphoto)

2. Speak rudely and disrespectfully

Exchanging humor and laughs helps build attachment and keep the relationship fresh. But if a joke turns to sarcasm, it can damage the relationship. All forms of humiliation and disrespect, often lead to separation. So in order for the rift to go smoothly, everyone in a couple needs to show self-control and mutual respect.

3. Trust decreases

Couples who are just getting to know each other, often impress each other. It may also be enthusiastic but not honest or claim to like the same thing, even if it's the other way around. A study found that strangers lied several times in the first 10 minutes of a conversation. But as relationships progress, people need to be authentic in order to develop true intimacy.

When a partner lies, even for a good cause, it will still create distance. Every lie, basically can erode trust. That is, telling the truth contributes to building trust in a couple's relationship.

4. Reluctant to compromise each other

Everyone has different preferences, from how to eat, menu tastes, to lifestyle. It is therefore important for couples to compromise with each other. Not blaming or criticizing different preferences, it's important to have a partner. When that happens, there is no compromise. This difference can be uncomfortable. It even triggers a breakup. So, deal with this issue immediately so as not to risk destroying the relationship.

5. Lack of intimacy

Both emotional closeness and physical closeness are important for every couple. This is a couple's way of strengthening the relationship. At the very least, a touch needs to be given to keep the relationship warm.

6. Too controlling and manipulative

Imposing interests can certainly damage relationships. Even too controlling and being manipulative for the sake of achieving the interests of one person, can ignite the fire of conflict. That is, avoid being too controlling and manipulative.

Those are the six things that mark the unhealthy relationship in a couple. You can overcome this by communicating openly and positively. Consult an expert if the problem escalates and can't be resolved together.