Lasting Marriage Has Been Tested These 5 Problems, The Solution Needs To Be Open To Each Other

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JAKARTA – Solving problems is an important aspect of a successful relationship. No couple is perfect, says a marriage counselor. Instead of imagining a perfect relationship, couples who are grounded in reality and open to each other are more receptive to each other's faults, quirks, and quirks.

Happiness has opportunities abound, but the inevitable is also experienced such as fights, misunderstandings, hurt feelings, jealousy, and lack of love. Now, rather than trying to avoid it, counselors advise better understand the truths that might spark an argument. The following truth, which tests a marital relationship and becomes more lasting.

1. Intimacy requires effort to maintain passion

Like a job, doing the 'same' thing but you need to keep the spirit alive. According to Florida-based mental health counselor and marriage therapist, Erin Parisi, every couple should try to keep things interesting, stay faithful, deal with troubling medical problems, to schedule special to strengthen intimacy such as having sex with husband and wife.

When one person feels less intense, a sense of security in the body is inevitable. Parisi advice, it's good to communicate openly and prioritize sex life to keep things healthy.

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2. Sometimes almost hate your partner

Some people's understanding based on experience leads to the conclusion that if partners love each other then it is necessary to hate each other too. According to Parisi, this is wrong, because love is not always the opposite of hatred and indifference.

He added, conflict is natural. But it is how one handles conflict that determines whether a marital relationship will thrive or suffer.

3. Not all problems can be solved

Truth based on facts is not always neat or acceptable and then solved. Even in a marriage that has been tried and tested, there have been problems that can't be solved. That means it's important to recognize and learn the difference between problems that could be solved or need to be managed differently, says Sarah E. Clark, licensed therapist and relationship expert.

4. Social life changes

Many couples feel at the beginning of marriage nothing has changed with their social circle. In fact, it's actually impossible because the time that you used to own after marriage needs to be managed more wisely. Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, MS., LCPC. said about this time, it is necessary to realize that everyone needs space for their own social life along with maintaining priorities.

5. Couples have changed

When the golden hue of a marriage fades, a person may realize that their partner has changed. Not as he knew like the days of courtship. At some point, it's a harsh reality but Slatkin's advice, even though it's changed, can be as exciting as you might think. He might see the world very differently and that's okay.

Slatkin's message, the ability to respect the other person's world is a key ingredient for a successful relationship. And this needs to be done both ways so that we can help each other become better and love and respect differences.