Far Different, These Are Facts Related To Falling In Love And Lust

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JAKARTA - Falling in love can make someone go crazy, think irrationally, and act without logic. Every time you see someone you love, a tinge of warmth in your heart will often come. It feels like you want to keep staring at your lover until you're satisfied. Even though when you are near him, your heart beats wildly, this is still the thing you enjoy the most.

At least once in your life, you have experienced falling in love. But, is it really love? Unfortunately, there is a high possibility that what is thought to be love is actually just lust.

How do you tell the difference between lust and love? Launching YourTango, Tuesday, January 11, the following is the difference between love and lust.

Feelings are intense and time consuming

Lust:

When you are infatuated with someone, you will be overwhelmed with eye-blinding emotions about the loved one. These emotions will often come until you finally feel fed up with your partner.

Love:

When you love someone, your feelings for them slowly come to light. Love never makes the owner feel infatuated. Love makes you feel calm and at ease.

Too possessive

Lust:

Lust makes you want to have it. Everyone who approaches your partner makes you jealous. You want your partner to always think about you and want all the attention to be solely on you. You are filled with tremendous jealousy, even if other people see them.

Love: Love is wild. When you love someone, you are not afraid to lose them because you don't even want to have them. You give them room to fully develop, in their own phase. You let it go free.

Fear and anxiety

Lust:

Lust will destroy you slowly with feelings of fear and anxiety about losing your loved one. You will worry and think too much about every trivial action and word that your partner says. Life is centered around your partner, without you needing self-interest.

Love:

When you fall in love, you are never afraid to lose. Because, you think your partner is always in you. No matter who they are friends with, what they think, and what they are doing, you will still love them.

Bonded feeling

Lust:

Lust makes you feel attached to your partner. This attachment stems from the fear of being abandoned. You are always afraid of your partner destroying you by leaving.

Love:

When you love someone, the greatest strength lies in your partner. It doesn't matter what he's doing and whether they're always there when needed, what is clear is that you are taking care of him, wishing him well, and asking for the well-being of his lover is enough for you.