So That It Doesn't Ruin The Atmosphere, Apply 7 Tips To Maintain Relationships With Your Partner's Family

Illustration of tips for maintaining a relationship with a spouse's family (Pexels/Askar Abayev)

JAKARTA – Spouse's family including in-laws is an important part in your partner's life. This means that you need to be in a relationship so that it is fun and doesn't make you feel bad because of different perspectives.

To maintain a relationship with your partner's family, you can apply the following tips. To be sure, you need to be open-minded in maintaining a harmonious relationship.

1. Cooperate with your partner

This is what needs to be done first, namely cooperate with your partner. To make dealings with your spouse's family more effective, never put your partner in the situation of having to choose between you and your relatives.

If you do this, it will certainly not result in a good relationship, it will trigger conflict. So try to understand the bond that exists between a couple and their families, such as their grandparents, parents, and siblings.

2. Setting limits

Setting boundaries is important, as are those that are your responsibility and don't need to be sorted out wisely. For example, not sacrificing time but still respecting or not lending money to your partner's cousin so as not to confuse family relations.

Discuss the boundaries that need to be made with your partner. This is necessary because communication with your partner is the most important.

3. Communicate directly

Gossiping or talking behind your back is not good, you know. This means don't ask your partner to talk to his sister about something that offends you. Talk directly to the person concerned, of course, discuss it with your partner first.

4. Know yourself

Knowing yourself is also important before merging with your partner's family. For example, knowing how well you cook, or adjusting to the habits of your partner's family. Don't worry if you don't really understand how to bake bread, just say it honestly and ask for directions when preparing a family event for a qualified family.

5. Follow your partner's family habits

Not every family has the same habits, you need to understand this first. Once you've recognized your partner's family habits, you can slowly adjust and accept the fact that being different makes you need to learn new things.

6. Respond with a cool head

Too tense makes you uncomfortable you know. So respond to every different habit, chatter, and way of speaking, for example, with a cool head. Including when receiving criticism, consider it as something new that needs adjustment.

7. Mature minded

In addition to being open-minded, it is also necessary to think maturely. Accept the fact that the couple's family has different rules and understand the perspective. Plus, being kind, for example, it's better to be quiet or smile than to say something that may not necessarily be accepted by the couple's family.

Lastly, keep your sense of humour. This can help you relax more and the conversation will be fluid without offending any of your partner's family.