Understanding Anxiety In Love And How To Overcome It

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JAKARTA - Anxiety as a mental health condition does not only come when you work in an office or face confusing circumstances. However, this anxiety can also occur in bed or during sex with a partner.

The term sex anxiety is sexual anxiety. This condition occurs, for example, when you have been with your partner for a while and suddenly you feel nervous about making love. Don't worry, sex anxiety is quite normal, and can be experienced by both men and women.

Sometimes, it may show up even if you've had sex before. So, what causes a person to have this type of anxiety and how does one deal with it?

First of all you have to know what sex anxiety is.

Sex anxiety or sexual performance anxiety affects people of all ages. It is related to the fear that you or a part of you may not be attractive to your partner. It can also arise if you feel you will not be able to please your partner.

This is why this concern is independent of how much sex experience you have had. You can experience it for a short period of time or for a longer period of time. You can even experience it when you're with a new partner.

According to sex therapist and TED speaker Claudia Six, "in women, sex anxiety can appear as difficulty attracting sex, difficulty getting aroused, or difficulty with orgasm."

So, here are some things you can do to deal with sex anxiety.

Loving your own body

You have to love your body. Whether it's a distended stomach, cellulite in the thigh area, or other body parts that you don't like. After all, your body is your soulmate!

Exercise or meditation

Increasing the hormone serotonin can help you deal with sex anxiety. Exercising can help you calm your nerves and increase those happy hormones. While meditation will help your mind to be pushed to the positive side and limit all negative talk in your head.

Express your sexual fantasies

The purpose of making love is not just to get an orgasm but also to help your partner get it. So, once you understand what you want in bed, you need to pass it on to your partner. After all, you both want to make each other feel good. It would be unfair for you not to tell your partner how he could do it for you!