4 Life Lessons You Can Learn When You Become A Ghosting Victim

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JAKARTA - Ghosting behavior in a relationship has become one of the hottest discussions this year. A phenomenon when a partner suddenly disappears from life and whatever the line of communication, you cannot contact him. It may occur in a friendship or during an approach, but it is more common when the two are in a romantic relationship.

When you become one of the victims of ghosting your partner, hurt (or maybe self-blame) will appear and collide in your heart and mind. In fact, it's not you who should shut yourself up because you don't deserve to be loved, that's why you need to remember these four things when you become a victim of his ghosting.

If he doesn't want to be with you, he's not the right person for you

This sentence sounds cliché but you need to keep it in mind so you don't get lost in the questions or the possibility that he who left is the right person for you. Because, if he was the right person, he wouldn't have disappeared without news or explanation. The right person, will always be with you.

Finding true love is not easy

Maybe movies make finding love seem easy. Couples who have been in a relationship since they were in school or college may seem easy to find love. However, for most people, finding true love is a long process and is not always easy.

Don't compare your search with other people who find their true love faster. You go through two different journeys in life, including the search for true love.

There's nothing wrong with feeling disappointed

What you need to remember when you become a victim of ghosting is that you have every right to be disappointed. It's not a pleasant feeling, losing someone you thought you'd be with forever, but suddenly disappears for no reason. So, if you want to dive into feelings of disappointment, sadness, or maybe anger, just do it.

It's not you who should feel ashamed

He's gone, he's the ghost who should be ashamed. Because, he did not end your relationship with respect, without giving certainty or clarity of his feelings for you. You didn't do anything wrong.