Miscarriage Like Hong Hae-in In Queen Of Tears Is A Traumatic Personal Experience

Hong Hae-in and Baek Hyun-woo had to lose their future baby in the Korean drama Queen of Tears. (Instagram/@TVN)

JAKARTA Loss of the fetus due to a miscarriage like what Hong Hae-in felt in the Korean drama Queen of Tears was one of the traumatic experiences for the family. Miscarriage does not only cause physical illness, but is more psychological to parents. Strengthening each other between husband and wife can help couples through difficult times easier.

The Korean drama titled Queen of Tears is trending topic since it first aired on theOver the Top (OTT) service last March. The household problems of Hae-in (Kim Ji-won) and Baek Hyun-woo (Kim Soo-hyun) couple are considered very related to the lives of some Indonesians, one of which is the experience of loss of the fetus or miscarriage.

In the drama, it is told about one year after getting married, Haei-in and Hyun-woo know that they will be blessed with a child. The good news was greeted with joy, they have even prepared everything for the needs of the baby.

It's a shame that happiness didn't last long because Hae-in miscarried. This incident made Hae-in and Hyun-woo's relationship far away.

From Hyun-woo's point of view, his wife looks tough and cold when throwing away all the objects that are prepared for their child. Meanwhile, the husband does not want to forget the future child who has passed away, so chooses to occupy the room.

Accepting the fact that a prospective mother has a miscarriage is not an easy matter. However, according to experts, difficult times to lose can be passed if the couple strengthens each other, not being strong in dealing with it individually.

Miscarriage is common. About 10 to 20 percent of pregnancy results in miscarriage. But even though it's a common thing, many people don't fully understand how bad it is for people who experience it.

Condolences are real things, but not something that is often talked about. After losing a baby, many mothers are expected to move on, get up, and move on. Often there is no room for them to mourn, the process of mourning is often silent and not supported.

Citing Very Well Mindtragedi's miscarriage is usually private, an event that the mother deeply regrets. Health service professionals generally advise women that sadness due to miscarriage will decrease over time, especially after their pregnancy is successful.

However, new research shows that some women may mourn longer than expected, even after giving birth to healthy children despite the different ranges and severity of symptoms.

Not only for women, this also applies to men. A new study found that men were grieving more than previously thought.

"Because it is common medically, the impact of miscarriage is often underestimated," said Janet Jaffe, a clinical psychologist at the Center for Reproduction Psychology in San Diego.

"But miscarriage is a traumatic loss, not only in pregnancy, but also in the feelings of a woman as well as her hopes and dreams in the future. This needs to be sad," he added.

Women who experience miscarriage are at risk of developing symptoms of depression and anxiety in the following years, according to Professor of Psychiatristy atLA University ofwas Medical Center Emma Robertson Blackmore, PhD.

Not only that, Robertson also said, women who had miscarriage also had a higher risk of developing post-born depression.

Hae-in and Hyun-woo are both grieving after losing their future baby. However, they do not show these feelings, thus giving each other assumptions.

Everyone will have a different emotional reaction to miscarriage, but it's not unusual to experience deep sadness after losing a pregnancy. The level of sadness due to miscarriage cannot be measured from when a person loses the fetus.

Miscarriage when prospective mothers feel that the movement of the fetus is not necessarily heavier than those who miscarried in the early stages of pregnancy. Moreover, generally, someone is still keeping pregnancy a secret in the early days so that the miscarriage that was experienced is also kept secret. This means that he experiences sadness in loneliness.

Just like any other loss, a person will go through various stages of mourning, from shock, anger, and finally being able to accept it.

Some people will arrive at the stage receiving faster than others, and some may feel emotions such as anger for a longer period of time, said Anette Kersting, Department of Psychosomatic Medicine at Leipzig University, Germany.

"What is clear is that there is no most appropriate way to mourn after the miscarriage," he said.