Ex-Little Mix Member Jesy Nelson's Hard Struggle Against Bullying

Jesy Nelson (@jesynelson)

JAKARTA - Jesy Nelson surprised fans when she announced her departure from the Little Mix group. After a career together for nine years, Nelson chose to leave the group that raised his name.

Through uploads that were distributed on Monday, December 14, Nelson wrote down his opinion while in the Little Mix group. "We achieved things that I thought were impossible. From winning the first Brit award to a sold out concert at O2. "

However, despite the joy and achievements Nelson got, he also tried hard to fight his mental health by continuing to perform with Little Mix. This depressed him and he chose to end it.

"To be honest, being in a band costs me my mental health. I find the constant pressure to be a girl group and live up to hard expectations,"

Jesy Nelson

Bullied Since The X-Factor

Little Mix is a girl group for alumni of The X Factor competition in 2011. The group consists of Perrie Edwards, Leigh-Anne Pinnock, Jade Thirlwall, and Jesy Nelson. They won the competition and signed a contract with Simon Cowell's music label, Syco Music.

The name Little Mix caught the attention of listeners. Their debut single, Wings, managed to rank first after its release. Wings are a passionate anthem that contains a positive message to continue living. The song Wings was inspired by their doubts while competing on The X-Factor. They were less confident after reading a prediction about elimination.

After Wings, Little Mix's songs continued to occupy first place on the UK charts. Among them are Black Magic, Shout Out to My Ex and others. But on the other hand, their presence is often accompanied by bullying and internet trolls.

Since appearing on The X-Factor, Nelson has often been insulted because of his appearance. Through the documentary Jesy Nelson: Odd One Out which aired on the BBC last year, Nelson shared the bullying he received through social media.

Nelson said, after Little Mix managed to amaze the jury with a Super Bass performance on The X Factor, the four of them read the audience's reactions on YouTube. However, many messages write; "He (Jesy Nelson) is a rat that is fat and ugly" "How did he get into the group?" so the situation becomes awkward.

I once received 101 messages in my Facebook inbox, and the first one came from a random guy saying: “You are the worst thing I have ever seen in my life, you don't belong in this girl band. You deserve to die. "

In fact, Nelson never felt any problem with his body. “I'm not only known as the Little Mix singer, I'm also known as the 'fattiest and worst'

Lowest Point

Two years after starting a career with Little Mix, Jesy Nelson experienced depression, an eating disorder, and even attempted suicide. He also became obsessive about looking badly about himself. “Sometimes I don't have to look for specifics, I write 'Jesy' and I see all the bad things. Everyone asks me to ignore - but it's addictive. "

Nelson's lowest point was when Little Mix released the album Salute. The mother, Janice asked Nelson to leave the group but at that time she was worried that if he chose to leave, he would become the center of attention.

The people around him asked Nelson to delete his Twitter account. In the documentary, Nelson began therapy and spoke with Liz Ritchie, a body-image specialist to help her understand Nelson's relationship with social media.

"I still have days where I feel bad but instead of hurting myself I think" OK, I'm going to have a sad moment and get through that. " I will not let myself be sad. " These bad comments had made it difficult for him to become a member of Little Mix. Nelson admits that he often leaves photo shoots because he can't see himself.

The documentary ends with Nelson feeling that his condition is improving. He talked to people who had experienced similar things and he did not feel the conditions they were in himself. At the time, Little Mix was working on a sixth album and he was glad he was back on Twitter and didn't care.

"I don't know what people are saying about me, but it's not that I'm not looking for it - and I don't care."

But the experience didn't always please Nelson. He chose to take a break from the activities of Little Mix, which just released the album Confetti last month. After a month's hiatus, Jesy Nelson chose to resign. The three other members supported Nelson's decision to make his health better.

Little Mix also stated that they will be working as a three-member group. The Confetti world tour will continue in 2021 as planned.