Referring To The Cases Of Lesti Kejora And Rizky Billar: Domestic Violence Is Not A Matter Of Sepele, Victims Must Dare To Talk

The couple Rizky Billar and Lesti Kejora always appear intimate on social media, but store coal in real life. (Instagram/@lestikejora)

This difficulty is reflected in his ability to protect, not from his injury to hurt. Excluding, saying rude and even hitting a wife is a disgraceful act that must be dealt with firmly, because it violates the law and norms.

General Moeldoko wrote that on his Instagram account on October 4, 2022. He felt sad why acts of violence against women, especially Domestic Violence (KDRT) still occurred.

Why can a husband easily commit violence against his own wife? The singer who graduated from Dangdut Academy, Lesti Kejora, had to use a neck buffer during treatment at the hospital due to violence by her husband, Rizky Billar.

I always remember the saying of my parents before I got married. One very strong message to me. Moel, if you are a real man, don't commit violence against women, especially to wives. Don't even speak out loud and even rude. Alhamdulillah, that's the message my parents have done until now," said General Moeldoko.

The domestic violence case experienced by Lesti had indeed attracted public attention at the end of September 2022. Lesti reported her husband, Rizky Billar, to the South Jakarta Police for alleged physical violence.

Tens of millions of followersLesti Kejora were surprised. How not, their marriage age is only one year old. They always show harmony on social media, especially when the first son was born in December 2021.

Information from the police, the violence began when Lesti alluded to the alleged affair committed by her husband. Lesti was angry and asked Rizky to immediately return her to her parents' house.

Rizky Billar was provoked by emotion and then pushed Lesti Kejora's body to the bed, then strangled Lesti's neck until she fell to the floor. This action, said Head of Public Relations of Polda Metro Jaya Kombes Endra Zulpan, was repeated.

Rizky also pulled Lesti's hand towards the bathroom and blocked her to the floor. So, her right hand, left neck, and body hurt," said Zulpan on September 29, 2022.

Referring to Komnas Perempuan data in 2020, acts of violence against wives ranks first in domestic violence cases. The number reached 3,221 cases or 50 percent of the total number of cases.

Domestic Violence cases, especially acts of violence against wives, whether sexual, psychological, or physical violence, can occur to anyone regardless of race, age, religion, social status, or level of education. This problem is generally difficult to detect because it is in the realm of privacy.

In fact, if domestic violence lasts a long time, the impact will be very dangerous for the victim. According to psychologist Kasandra Putranto, painful events due to violence can lead to traumatic experiences, let alone those closest to them. Families who should provide a sense of security and comfort actually provide violence that creates fear and anger.

"This trauma is often experienced by victims of domestic violence with trauma levels of exposure involving emotional pain, life-threatening events, serious injuries, sexual violence and other forms," Kasandra explained to VOI, Thursday (13/10).

The impact of domestic violence is not only on wives as victims, but also on children. Children living in the scope of families experiencing domestic violence have a high risk of neglect, becoming victims of direct abuse, and also the risk of losing their parents who act as role models.

Especially when the child is in school age. The experience of watching, hearing, experiencing violence within the family sphere can have a lot of negative influence on the safety and stability of children's lives and well-being. In this case, children become victims indirectly or are referred to as latent victims.

According to Bair-Merritt, Blackstone & Feudtner (2006), children who see daily violent behavior in the house can experience physical, mental and emotional disorders," Kasandra continued.

That's why, according to Kasandra, the victim must have the courage to speak up. What Lesti did was what the victims should have done. Domestic violence usually begins with psychological violence and then develops into physical violence. As a wife, women tend to accept and understand when husbands commit violence against them.

"When the wife begins to understand and easily forgives her husband for the violence he has committed, then domestic violence will become repeated violence," he said.

Kasandra gave tips:

Regarding domestic violence, the government has issued Law Number 23 of 2004. For domestic violence cases in the form of physical violence or acts that result in pain, falling ill, or serious injury, the threat of a maximum sentence of five years in prison.

KDRT is not a trivial matter that can be ignored just like that or even considered normal because it is done by his own family. Not infrequently domestic violence can eventually threaten someone's safety and life," Kasandra said.

Kasandra said there were several reasons why a wife who had domestic violence remained in a violent marriage relationship, including:

Many people think that surviving a complete family is able to make children's lives better and happier. In reality, children tend to imitate what they see in their parents' relationships, when children see their mother becoming a victim of violence, children will learn the wrong thing about marriage.

Children may think marriage is not a fun thing. This will make children have prolonged trauma and it is likely difficult to have a relationship as an adult.

Divorce is not a fun solution and not the ultimate goal of a marriage, but for domestic violence victims who often experience severe physical violence, perhaps divorce is an alternative choice of solution to break the chain of violence, Kasandra emphasized.