Characteristics And How To Control Yourself So You Don't Become A People Pleaser

JAKARTA - People pleaser nature can arise due to various things. As reported by Riliv, as a psychological consultation application and a source of mental health information, people pleasers can arise due to low self-confidence, which is triggered by various factors such as trauma to parents who demand their children to be proud individuals.

But unfortunately, people pleasing can lead to frustration, because people who take advantage of people pleaser do not realize the sacrifices made.

Some of the characteristics of people pleasers include frequently apologizing even though they are not wrong, requiring validation from others, and feeling guilty after doing something. If you feel like you're a people pleaser, here are some ways you can start validating yourself more and stop forgetting about your own happiness and wasting a lot of energy, for the praise of others.

Although it is difficult to say no, it is important to be aware of your condition and consider whether fulfilling the invitation is to make yourself happy or for the sake of pleasing the invitee. Start setting boundaries to know what we want, like, and can afford.

When refusing an invitation, do it politely and give a clear explanation. To avoid hurting other people's feelings, you can start with a compliment and end with a thank you, such as "Thanks for inviting me, unfortunately I can't attend, but tell me next time."

Don't apologize just because you want to feel better about yourself. Apologies are meaningless if they are not sincere.

you are valuable. Your feelings are valid. Do activities that make you feel good about achieving something. Have fun with your friends without having to do anything for them.

Most importantly, enjoy the happiness you feel without feeling guilty. If you're happy, you don't have to please anyone else.