To Create Healthy Relationships, Consider 5 Attitudes When Your Partner Is Selfish

JAKARTA – Couples who are selfish often think of themselves more than others. This attitude may lead to big problems. But it can also be minimized with your wise response.

Reported by Bustle, Monday, October 25, based on a literature review conducted in 2017 found that giving to people we love can increase happiness, self-esteem, and self-meaning.

While you have the right to ask why your partner is being selfish, here are some recommendations for attitudes you should consider according to dating and relationship experts.

Everyone needs to work on their own happiness, says Sarah Louise Ryan – a dating and relationship expert in the UK. Including you who fall in love with someone with a selfish nature. This doesn't mean you're stuck in the abyss of love, but you can re-identify what it takes to be happy.

If you have a partner who is too indifferent or not a good listener, it is advisable to communicate what you need from your partner. According to therapist MoAndra Johnson, healthy relationships have room for individuality but not at the expense of one another.

This means that each person needs to negotiate between the needs of each individual outside the relationship by having to work together to build mutual understanding. Instead of blaming your partner, Johnson advises, try to focus on the impact your partner's behavior has on you.

Ryan suggests being more selfish to compensate for a selfish partner. It's okay to say no to things that don't work for you. Have your partner 'fill his own cup' and prioritize yourself to be more even.

No one can change a person's nature, including a selfish partner. But Johnson suggests that by giving a partner the responsibility, he slowly wants change.

If your partner responds respectfully, then the relationship is on the right track. But beware of experiencing gaslighting when your partner doubts your perception or because of an argument about what's going on.

Making your partner angry is very risky for gaslighting. Johnson's advice, recognize the ups and downs of your partner's emotions. Take a break when the pitch and volume start to rise.

By taking a break, it means letting you and your partner think cooler. Convey your needs from a selfish partner wisely so as not to seem 'stabbed'. If not resolved, make a deal with your partner and consult a relationship therapist.