Nurturing with Awareness: The Art of Managing Emotions for Optimal Child Development

JAKARTA - Being a parent is not just about carrying out the routine of childcare, but rather a journey of emotional maturity. Child and family psychologist from the University of Indonesia, Sani B. Hermawan, emphasized that the ability of parents to regulate feelings is the main key so that the role of childcare can run optimally.

According to Sani, every adult who has children under his or her responsibility - whether biological or not - has a moral obligation to protect and control emotions in front of them.

Often, when pressure hits, our focus shifts to venting anger. In fact, the most crucial first step is a pause. Sani suggests that parents focus on calming themselves first before trying to find solutions to the problems they face.

"When emotions are turbulent, focus on calming yourself, not on relieving them. You can take a moment to worship, listen to music, take a walk, or share stories with trusted friends," explained Sani.

Raising a child is a big task that is difficult to do alone. Sani suggests the importance of building a support system. With a supportive environment, parents are easier to regulate emotions and act with full awareness (mindful), rather than just reacting impulsively to children's behavior.

One of the profound messages conveyed is about parents' views of children. When parents only focus on fulfilling their personal emotions, they tend to lose perspective as protectors.

Some points of reflection for parents include:

Children are not tools: Children are not a medium to channel parents' frustration or anger.

Emotional Maturity: Mature parents are able to see situations from the child's point of view, not just from their personal ego.

Responsibility for Growth and Development: Controlled parental behavior will build a sense of security in children, which is the main foundation for their optimal development.

In the end, quality parenting is born from parents who are willing to continue to learn to recognize and tame their own emotions. That way, the house really becomes a warm shelter for children.