Even Though It's Colored With Infidelity, These Are 5 Reasons Couples Maintain Marriage
JAKARTA – Although it is difficult to accept a partner who has had an affair and stays together, there are couples who do not choose to separate. Every couple has their own reasons, and the choice is up to each individual.
Some couples, even though marriage is colored with stories of infidelity, separation is hard enough to be an alternative choice. What is the reason for keeping the marriage dipper in the ocean full of waves?
Thinking infidelity is a mistake
No one does not make mistakes. The reason couples keep their marriage even though it is colored by infidelity is that they think that 'bad behavior' is a mistake.
A relationship expert, Wendy Walsh, Ph.D. says that if a partner cheated on him and is willing to make amends, then a mediator can help the couple rekindle the relationship.
Recognizing the conditions that open the opportunity for an affair
A story about Mo'nique in an interview with True Exclusive who realized her condition and gave her a 'ticket' for her partner to have an affair. She cannot prevent her husband from getting what he needs from others because he is aware of his limitations.
The problem in this context is sex, Mo'nique told The New York Times. This couple prioritizes honesty and communication.
And relationship expert Dr. Pepper Scwartz and Michael Castleman comment that this is a bad idea. But both understand the condition as justification involving a third party in the marital relationship.
Have financial considerations
It is not wrong, but it needs to be considered carefully because it can interfere with mental health if you are still maintaining a marriage because it is oriented towards financial considerations.
Weighing the kids
Because of children, maintaining a marriage even though it is colored by an unfaithful attitude is chosen by many couples. Even though feelings are shattered because the romance is no longer compatible, the couple stays together for their children. This is chosen so that the baby does not experience a messy family.
According to US Weekly, Michele Weiner-Davis, who works on relationship reconciliation for the Wilkinsons, says that seeking a therapist is the best way to mend a broken relationship. Wilkinson said, forgiveness can be interpreted in two ways, namely giving up or reuniting.
Forgive by faith
According to Paul Amato, professor of sociology at Penn State, strong religious views are one of the main barriers to divorce. Apart from reasons of financial dependence and children.
However, the reason to keep the marriage because of faith was chosen by Tina Campbell after Teddy Campbell was caught cheating on her in 2013.
Whatever the reason for each couple, it is important to understand that they are doing what is best for their personal life, children, and family.