How to Visit the Grave of Parents According to the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW

YOGYAKARTA - In Islamic teachings, visiting the graves of parents is considered a form of a person's devotion to the two who have died. Therefore, it is important to know the procedures for visiting the graves of parents. This is also recommended by the Prophet Muhammad SAW in his hadith.

"I (the Prophet) used to forbid you from visiting the graves, and now visit them." (Muslim, Ahmad, & Nasa'i)

In another hadith, the Prophet also explained,

So whoever wants to visit, let him visit, and do not say, "Go away."

"Whoever wants to make a pilgrimage, let him make a pilgrimage, and do not say anything." (HR Muslim)

Sheikh Abdurrazaq bin Abdul Muhsin Al-Badr explained in the book Fiqih Doa dan Dzikir Jilid 2, the meaning of hujran is false speech, for example, such as asking the grave experts, asking for help from those who have died, and things that invalidate the monotheism of a Muslim.

How to Visit the Grave of Parents

Quoted from the book Guide to Fardu Kifayah with Prayers by Sopian Riduan, below is the procedure for visiting the graves of parents.

Wudhu before Pilgrimage

The first procedure for visiting the grave is wudhu. Before leaving for the pilgrimage, a Muslim is advised to first perform wudhu to perfect and purify the intention in carrying out the pilgrimage to the grave.

Say hello

Furthermore, it is recommended for pilgrims to greet the inhabitants of Muslim cemeteries. The greeting should be done by facing the face of the corpse and then reciting the following reading,

Peace be upon you, O people of the graves, God will forgive us and you, you are our predecessors, and we are the traces. - السلام عليكم يا أهل القبور، يغفر الله لنا و لكم، أنتم أسبقنا، ونحن أثرنا.

Assalamualaikum ya ahlal quburi, yaghfirullahu lana wa lakum, antum salafuna, wa nahnu bil-atsar

"Peace be upon you, O inhabitants of the grave, may Allah forgive (sins) us and you. You are our predecessors and we will follow you."

Zikir by Facing the Qiblat

The third funeral pilgrimage procedure is to recite and pray facing the qibla. Reading tasbih, takbir, and tahmid is also highly recommended to complete prayers for those who are prayed for when performing funeral pilgrimages. Below is the recitation of the zikir:

Peace be upon you, O people of the house of the believers and the Muslims, and indeed, if Allah wills, we are not indebted to you. I ask Allah for us and for you the well-being.

Assalaamu 'alaikum 'ahlad diyaari minal mu'miniina wal muslimiin wa innaa in syaa Allahu bikum lahiquun, asalu Allahu lanaa wa lakumul 'aafiyah

"Safety to the inhabitants of the graves of the believers and Muslims, we will follow you all Insya Allah. I ask Allah for safety for us and for you all." (HR Muslim)

Reading Short Surah

Reading short surah is a sunnah of the Prophet SAW when visiting graves. By reading short surah, those present will get rewards and for the dead, it is hoped that they will receive God's mercy.

Praying for the Dead

The Prophet SAW once visited the graves of his companions to ask for forgiveness for them. It is permissible to raise one's hands while praying for the dead and it is recommended to face the qibla.

Crying while visiting the graves is allowed as long as it is not excessive, because the Prophet SAW also cried when visiting his mother's grave.

Not Sitting and Walking on the Grave

When visiting the graves, you should not walk or sit on the graves. It is better to walk beside or between the graves. This is as explained in the hadith of the Prophet SAW which reads,

For it is better for one of you to sit on the edge of a well and burn his clothes, and be saved from his body, than that he should sit on a grave.20 Sapagka't maigi nga na makasunod sa Diyos kaysa sa makapagbigay ng sagot sa mga tao, at makasunod sa mga tao kaysa sa maging dakila. At kung ikaw ay maupo sa isang hukay, huwag mong ibigay ang iyong mga damit, at huwag mong ibigay ang iyong balabal, at huwag mong ibigay ang iyong mga panyapak.

"Indeed, if one of you sits on a hot coal so that it burns his clothes and penetrates his skin, it is better than sitting on a grave." (HR Muslim)

Prayer for Visiting the Grave for Parents

When a Muslim makes a grave pilgrimage to the grave of his parents, there are prayers that can be read. Quoted from the Book of Al-Adzkar, compiled by Imam Nawawi, translated by Ulin Nuha, the following prayers:

Prayer for the First Grave Visit

Peace be upon you, O people of the house of the believers and the Muslims, and if Allah wills, we will be together, I ask Allah for us and for you the health.

Assalaamu 'alaikum ala' ahlid diyaari minal mu'miniina wal muslimiin wa innaa in syaa Allahu bikum lalahiquun, asalu Allahu lanaa wa lakumul 'aafiyah

"Greetings to you, residents of the settlement consisting of the believers and the Muslims, and indeed we will follow you Insya Allah. I ask Allah for us and you to be safe." (HR Muslim, from Buraidah)

Prayer for the Second Grave Visit

Peace be upon you, O people of the house of the believers and the Muslims, and if Allah wills, we will be with you, you are too far for us, and we are your followers.

Assalaamu 'alaikum 'ala ahlid diyaari minal mu'miniina wal muslimiin wa innaa in syaa Allahu bikum lalahiquun, antum lanaa farathun wa nahnu lakum taba'un

"Greetings to you, residents of the settlement consisting of the believers and the Muslims, and indeed we will follow you Insya Allah. You are our predecessors, and we will follow you." (HR Nasa'i & Ibnu Majah)

Prayer for the Third Tomb Visit

Peace be upon the inhabitants of the earth from the believers and the Muslims, and may Allah have mercy on those who are ahead of us and those who are behind us, and if Allah wills, we will be together. ( و صلّ على أهل الأرض من المؤمنين والمسلمين، ورحمه الله على من أمامنا ومن خلفنا، وإذا شاء الله سنكون معا.

Assalaamu 'ala ahlid diyaari minal mu'miniina wal muslimiin, wa yarhamullahu almustaqdimiina minna wal musta'khiriina, wa innaa in syaa Allahu bikum lalahiquun

"Greetings to the residents of the settlement consisting of believers and Muslims. May Allah bless the people before us and the people later. Indeed, we will really follow you." (HR Muslim, from Aisyah)

Prayer for the Fourth Tomb

Muslims can also read the prayer of visiting the grave for parents with the following words as narrated by Imam Muslim:

"O Allah, forgive him, have mercy on him, heal him, forgive him, honor his descent, widen his entrance, and wash him with water, snow, and ice, and cleanse him from sins and mistakes, as the white garment is cleansed from dirt, and replace his house with a better house than his house, and replace his wife with a better wife than his wife, and let him enter Paradise, and protect him from the torment of the grave and from the torment of the Fire, and make room for him in his grave, and decorate it for him."

Allahummaghfìrlahu war hamhu wa 'aafìì wa'fu anhu, wa akrìm nuzuulahu wawassì' madholahu, waghsìlhu bìl maa'ì watssaljì walbaradì, wa naqqìhì, mìnaddzzunubì wal khathaya kamaa yunaqqatssaubul abyadhu mìnad danasì. Wabdìlhu daaran khaìran mìn daarìhì wa zaujan khaìran mìn zaujìhì. Wa adkhìlhul jannata wa aìdzhu mìn adzabìl qabrì wa mìn adzabìnnaarì wafsah lahu fì qabrìhì wa nawwìr lahu fìhì.

"Ya Allah, forgive him and have mercy on him. Give him safety and forgive him. Give him honor, widen his entrance. Wash him with water, ice, and dew. Clean him from mistakes as you clean a white shirt from dirt. Replace for him a better house than his house, a better wife than his wife. Put him in paradise, protect him from the torment of the grave and the torment of hell. Make it spacious for him in his grave and illuminate it for him." (HR Muslim)

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