Hard To Get A Partner? Scientists Say Singles Only Need To Learn Flirting

Have you ever wondered why someone is really easy to get a partner, while others have tried hard but have not managed to establish a relationship? Apparently, the answer is not about appearance.

A new study revealed that the ability to tease or flow turns out to have an important role in determining whether a person is easy to establish a romantic relationship or not.

Reporting from the Psychology Today page, the research published in the journal Persionality and Individual Differences edition in January 2024 was conducted by two researchers, Apostolou and Michaelidou, against 1,432 respondents in Cyprus who speak Greek.

They examine 17 factors that can influence a person to become an involuntary single, namely people who want to have a partner but remain single, not because of their own choice.

The results are quite interesting. People who are not good at teasing have low self-confidence, or are too voters, it turns out that it is more likely to remain single.

"A slight increase in tempting abilities can create opportunities for someone to have a romantic relationship up to three times," the researchers wrote.

In addition to tempting abilities, easyness of anxiety (neuroticism), low self-esteem, and negative views of personal appearance also have a major influence on difficulties in relationships.

For men, there are several things that have been proven to be related to their length of being single. Among them are lacking ability to flow, high level of anxiety, and low self-confidence towards self-worth as a partner.

Interestingly, research also found that men who had never had children from their previous relationships tended to be more difficult to establish new relationships.

The lack of self-confidence, negative views on oneself and lack of effort in finding a partner have also extended a person's single status, the researchers wrote.

In addition, indirect factors such as a high body mass index (BMI), lack of discipline, and poor views on appearance also reduce the chances of men getting a partner.

Meanwhile, in women, factors such as lacking nuclear capacity, low sexual function, too voter, and less friendly are the main causes of difficulty finding a partner.

Several other things that also affect, although not directly, are excessive shame, difficulty reading the signs of attraction from others, as well as low social skills.

"For women, being too selective or awkward when interacting is often the biggest barrier in establishing romantic relationships," the researchers wrote.

Interestingly, this research emphasized that the problem of finding a partner is not solely about physical or appearance. Social and emotional abilities turned out to be much more influential.

Both men and women who feel awkward, pessimistic, or not confident when interacting tend to be single longer.

However, the researchers emphasized that the results of the research were correlational, not direct causes.

"We can't confirm whether low teasing skills keep someone single, or vice versa. Further research is still needed." they wrote.