Not Wealth, Psychologist Explains 9 Deepest Human Wishes

JAKARTA - Many people think that wealth and wealth are the main goals in life. Whereas if we look deeper, there are other things that are much more valuable and actually make life feel complete.

Berdasarkan pengalaman psikolog, Charlotte Fox Weber dan perjalanan hidup banyak orang, berikut 9 hal yang paling diinginkan manusia dalam hidupnya, seperti dilansir CNBC Make It pada Sabtu, 27 September 2025.

1. Loved

Everyone wants to feel love, both from their partners, family and friends. Love is not always shown in words, but also through presence, hugs or small attention that makes us feel valued.

2. Understand

It hurts when other people judge themselves wrongly. Therefore, it is understood is the basic need for humans. But to be understood by others, we need to first understand ourselves.

3. Have Strength

Strength is not about controlling other people, but about controlling oneself. When a person dares to make decisions and be responsible, that's where he feels the true power.

4. Have and Pay Attention

Attention makes us feel meaningful. When we are really present for others, it not only gives them happiness, but also heals the inside of ourselves.

5. Freedom

Every stage of life has a different meaning of freedom. For teenagers, it may be limited to freedom to go out of the night. For adults, it can be in the form of freedom to choose a job or a way of life. The point is that humans want to feel they have space to make their own choices.

6. Work

Creativity doesn't have to be in the form of a masterpiece. Writing small notes, cooking new recipes, or trying new hobbies is also part of work. By being creative, we express who we really are.

7. To feel belonging

We all want to be a part of something, family, group or community. But a sense of true belonging arises when we dare to be ourselves, not just adapting to be accepted.

8. To win

Win for each person is different. It could be a big success or just managed to beat the feeling of laziness today. The most important thing, we learn to celebrate even a small achievement.

9. Connected with Others

Sincer connections are born from the courage to open up. When we feel safe to share stories, wounds, or shame, we can build a relationship full of acceptance and trust.