Psychologist Reveals 5 Personal Secrets That Should Not Be TOLD To Others

JAKARTA - We all need friends to talk. It feels relieved when you can express your heart, especially to those closest to you. However, according to psychology, there are several things that should not be spread carelessly.

It does not mean having to hide everything, but rather maintaining privacy, mental health, and the quality of social relations.

"Every annoyance we feel from others can be a valuable lesson to understand yourself." said psychologist Lachlan Brown, quoted from the Expert Editor page.

Here are 5 things that we should not tell carelessly according to psychology.

1. Too Personal Household Problems

Talking about your partner is natural. But if you open a household disgrace in detail, especially to people who can't necessarily be trusted, the impact can be bad.

Talking about the couple's conflict with outsiders without a solution only increases dissatisfaction, not solves the problem.

Instead, choose trusted people, such as counselors or wise friends and share enough. Remember not everyone needs to know the details of your problems.

2. Big Plans That Have Not Been Realized

Have you ever had the passion to share big plans, want to open a business, go to school again, or want to change jobs, then in the end the plan ran aground?

When we share our goals openly, the brain is satisfied as if the goal was achieved, so that motivation can decrease.

When the intention is announced, a sense of completeness that is too early can reduce the possibility of actual achievement.

3. Income or Financial Condition

Maybe there are friends who are open about salary or business. But be careful, according to social psychology, talking about money often triggers social comparison. This compares itself with other people who can lead to jealousy or inferiority.

Discussion on finance is important, but choose the right forums such as with a relevant partner, financial advisor or co-worker.

4. Very Personal Health Issues

Sharing experiences of illness can help others feel not alone. However, excessive details about personal medical conditions can make other people uncomfortable or actually exacerbate the stigma against themselves.

Too often discussing medical conditions openly can add to stress because it creates a negative response from people around you. Instead of venting to just anyone, it is better to consult directly with professionals.

5. Other People's Secrets

The last thing is clear, never spread the stories of other people. According to psychology, this behavior can damage trust in social relations. Once trust is lost, it is very difficult to return.

Trust is the glue of life. It is the most important ingredient in effective communication. Keeping others' secrets is not only about ethics, but also shows emotional maturity.