Viral Dating Trends To Hate To Break Up Easily, Experts Remind The Risk

JAKARTA - On TikTok now has a new trend about how to break up a lot of discussion. His name is quite eccentric, namely 'Dete Them Until You Hate Them' or 'Kencani Until You Hate It'.

But that doesn't mean breaking up is colored by a great fight. On the other hand, this trend is about slowly disappearing from relationships by letting yourself lose your feelings.

This trend originated from TikTok creator Meg Neil (@themegneil) who went viral after sharing his story out of the relationship for four years.

"I dated him until finally I hated him," Meg said in a video, quoted from the New York Post page.

Instead of fighting or demanding change, Meg chooses to turn off her emotions.

"You're going to let him disrespect you. You'll see that going on until finally you don't want to have anything to do with him anymore," he added.

According to Meg, it used to hurt like his girlfriend's indifferent attitude or annoying breathing. This is precisely the reason that makes him feel free.

In the comments column, many other women admit that they have experienced the same thing.

"The cap says this, but this is the only way to really move on," wrote the netizen.

"I'm in this phase now. The best way to go, it feels like the process has been completed from the start," said another netizen.

"I really believe in this method. Don't fight, just look at how embarrassing he is and take care of him and then leave," continued another netizen.

Another TikTok user, Amberrypton (@ambermayhutton), also revealed a similar experience. According to him, although the phrase 'date them until you hate them' sounds controversial, often new people can really let go after arriving at the saturation point.

"You have to get to the point where you are aware that it is enough, then choose to leave, while understanding what you deserve," he said.

Although many feel apart, experts say this trend can be dangerous. Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn thinks this strategy is actually a form of neglect.

"Some people use this method because they don't have good communication skills to refuse or make boundaries," he told Pure Wow.

Tara added that negative feelings that are allowed to drag on are not only damaging to relationships, but can also have an impact on other aspects of life and mental health.

This is similar to the term banking, which is a way of breaking up slowly by harboring feelings until they finally just disappear, called that because it resembles the work of mysterious artist Banksy who suddenly appears unexpectedly.

"People who withdraw feel they can process separation in their own way. But when they finally decided, their partner was totally shocked," added relationship expert Amy Chan.

The question is, do you really have to hate first and then end the relationship? Experts think this method only prolongs pain, even though many people think it is the easiest way to really let go.

The most important thing is open communication and the courage to speak honestly is healthier than letting love rot into hate.