Playing in the Film Andai Ibu Tidak Menikah dengan Ayah Changed Amanda Rawles' View of the Role of Married Couples

JAKARTA - Actress Amanda Rawles shared her mature perspective on marriage and parenthood after starring in the film "Andai Ibu Tidak Menikah dengan Ayah."

For her, stepping into marriage is not an escape from problems, but rather a decision made with mental preparation and strong principles, including rejecting the patriarchal system in the household.

One of her main principles is how she wants to be a mother in the future. She is determined not to use her child as the solution to her own problems.

"If I want to be a mother, maybe I don't want my child to be the solution to my problems," said Amanda Rawles in South Jakarta on Monday, August 11.

Her mental readiness for marriage now also stems from an important realization she gained after starring in the film. She realized that in the past, her desire to marry was based on inappropriate intentions.

"I also didn't want to get married because I wanted to escape my problems, and after being in this film, I realized why I only got married now. I only got married early, even though I only got married now because I'd always wanted to, but I felt like I just wanted to run away," explained Amanda Rawles.

"But now I feel like, oh, it turns out I'm ready, I feel like I'm mentally ready. Hmm, that's one thing," she explained.

Furthermore, Amanda has also built a clear foundation regarding the type of partnership she wants in her marriage.

She and her partner agree not to adhere to a patriarchal system where financial responsibility falls solely on the man.

"And secondly, I've also discussed that I don't adhere to that patriarchal system, that the man should be responsible for the family's financial situation," Amanda continued.

She longs for an equal relationship, where joys and sorrows are shared and there's flexibility in fulfilling her role as a parent.

"We talked about how we have fun together, but also have hard times together. We want to complement each other. There's flexibility in our roles as parents," he concluded.