6 Negative Thoughts That Make You Doubt Yourself

YOGYAKARTA - Everyone has a voice in the head that monitors and sometimes criticizes and doubts themselves. This is called inner critical, when the sound is negative in the mind is too loud, it can have a bad impact on mental well-being. The researchers found six types of negative thoughts that often 'ghoste' after experiencing something or making a wrong choice. Here, know the type of negative mind and how to manage it so that it can have a lighter day.

This negative thought, called the teamster by Vinita Mehta, Ph.D., Ed.M., clinical psychologist and journalist reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, July 23. Referring to the results of research conducted by Bronislava Badminton, et al., this negative thought that is never satisfied always encourages you to do more.

This negative thought also makes you feel always lacking and feel you are missing out on opportunities. In fact, constantly working hard can cause unnecessary stress. Mehta's advice, the way to calm it is to provide space and time for yourself. Try to appreciate what has been achieved today and understand that resting is also part of productivity.

This type of negative mind, considers emotions as something bad or unnecessary to feel. When you are sad or anxious, this voice immediately corneres, saying you have to be calm and should not be emotional. In fact, emotions are an important signal from you. How to calm him down, start admitting that feeling, give space to express it. It is also important to understand everything humane. Experts suggest a calming way like this, called self-acceptance or accepting emotions that are experienced as humane things.

Negative thoughts that focus on the worst possibility encourage you to control everything so you don't get things wrong. However, trying too much to control it actually makes you stressed and tired. The key to dealing with it is to increase self-chaoticity, for example speaking gently to yourself and diverting attention to things that can be controlled.

This type of negative mind arises when you feel you fail to meet very high self-standards. For example, when the goal is not achieved and says 'I'm not worthy' or 'I'm not smart enough'.

Negative thoughts about what is achieved are never enough, making motivation for drop and feeling of self-esteem worsen. The way to deal with it, start with compassion for yourself. For example, by saying to yourself 'I did my best'. It's also important to remember that the process is important and a satisfactory result is not achieved instantly.

Different from the previous type, these negative thoughts arise when you feel failed in the eyes of others. Be it family, friends, or co-workers. Negative thoughts that make you feel insufficient in front of other people encourage getting social acceptance and recognition from others, not for yourself. This can make you easily stressed in social interactions and afraid to disappoint people.

This negative thought is the most severe type. Because it makes a person feel unfit for anything. This triggers disgust of yourself and makes it difficult for you to recognize kindness in yourself. Beating negative thoughts that are full of hatred for yourself requires a long process and requires self-compassion and deep therapy. Usually assisted by emotional counseling techniques with professionals or psychologists.

Please note, voice in mind, or called inner critical, is not an enemy that must always be destroyed. Even negative thoughts can be managed and tamed. When you recognize where negative thoughts lead to steps and change behavior, you can respond gently and logically. That way, you can spend the day lighter and more confident.