9 Sentences That Are Good Not To Say To Someone Who Is Sad

YOGYAKARTA - When a loved one is disappointed, angry, or sad, spontaneously we want to comfort him. However, without realizing it, some sentences meant to calm down can actually make things worse. It is important for us to understand that empathy is not just "saying something", but conveying attention in the right way. Here are some sentences that should not be said to someone who is sad or emotionally hurt.

This sentence has the intention of underestimating the feelings of others. What seems 'small' to us can be very big and painful for that person. That is, avoid saying sentences that underestimate other people's feelings.

Although it means to show empathy, this sentence risks eliminating that person's unique experience. There are no two situations that are completely the same. Maybe you've experienced it, but everyone's experience is different in feeling and interpreting an event.

Comparing suffering to other things that are considered better can be felt like ignoring the pain that is being experienced. Apparently, providing comfort to others is not as simple as we imagined. In fact, we need to avoid comparing suffering, or other experiences experienced by everyone.

This sentence is often more entertaining for advisors than for those who hear it. Citing Psychology Today, Monday, June 16, the author of The Stop Domestic Violence Program, David B. Weapon, Ph.D wrote, when someone is hurt, they need to be understood, not looking for philosophical meaning.

Avoiding emotions is not a solution. People need space to feel, not told to forget. So, avoid saying this sentence to someone who is sad, yes.

The urge to be "strong" can feel like a ban on crying or being honest with feelings. In fact, being vulnerable does not mean weak. This vulnerability is important in an effort to be honest with yourself.

This sentence implies that a person has no right to feel sad, which can actually exacerbate feelings of guilt and isolation. This sentence also needs to be avoided even though the intention is to entertain people who are sad.

This sentence forces people to stop processing their emotions, even though recovery takes time and process. It needs to be understood, every event that makes a person sad, cannot be immediately forgotten or makes someone think. In some time, it may fall. But this is a process that can always be passed by getting positive support from those closest to you.

Accusing others of being "too sensitive" will make them question the validity of their emotions. It can also make a person shut himself up in the future.

After understanding the sentence that should be avoided to entertain sad people, it is also necessary to give positive support sentences. These sentences include, first, giving space to tell stories such as saying 'I'm here if you want to tell me'. You can also give support by saying 'You're not alone, I hear', 'Do you want a hug?', or just sitting still accompanying. According to Wechali, often, attend and listen without judging is much more meaningful than any suggestion.