5 Tips For Managing Emotions In Marriage

JAKARTA - As humans, you often make decisions based on emotions. And learning ways to be more aware of emotions can have a positive impact on your relationships with others. For example, on a marriage relationship. When you and your partner start to focus on developing emotional intelligence, it will be easier for both of you to resolve conflicts, achieve mutual understanding, and increase intimacy. Because actually, being skilled at managing emotions is the key to healthy communication in marriage.

Reporting from Marriage.com, Thursday, June 12, here are tips on managing emotions in a marriage relationship.

When you validate other people's feelings, this helps them feel heard. If someone feels listened to, they often feel appreciated and willing to communicate authentically. When you validate feelings, avoid reading the implied one. Just repeat what your partner has revealed.

For example, when your partner expresses his annoyance when you put a towel on the bed, you don't have to defend yourself. Just validate your partner's feelings by saying something like, "So, you feel annoyed when I put the towel on the bed."

After validating your partner's feelings, it is important to clarify what they have said, to avoid miscommunication that can often lead to quarrels.

Use your active listening skills to tell your partner you understand them by repeating what they're saying.

Be part of the solution, not a problem. If your partner says they are having trouble with something, and ask for your help, work together as a team to find a solution.

For example, when your partner puts a towel on the bed, give him a solution to immediately dry the towel or place it on another surface. Then, ask your partner if they are willing to do it or not.

Looking at the positive side of life, helping to manage stress and research shows it can have a positive impact on your health. There are several things you can do to be more optimistic. An example is to tell your partner the things you value from him every day.

Lastly, think about the best about other people. By assuming that your partner has good intentions, they may meet your expectations. You will feel much better by assuming the best, than having negative thoughts that can bring you down. To train to assume good with each other, you can find positive things about what you love about those relationships and share.