How To Respond To Questions When To Get Married And Have Children During Eid

YOGYAKARTA - For some people, the moment of Eid can be a scourge or a concern in itself. This is due to various personal questions that often arise during friendship. If you are one of those who are concerned, you may be thinking about how to respond to the question of when to get married and have children, which is often asked during Eid.

For those who are single, they will usually be asked 'when do you get married?'. Meanwhile, married couples often get a question 'when do they have children?'. Questions like this often make people feel uncomfortable, even depressed.

Then why is a question like this so common during Eid? Should this question not be asked? And how do you respond wisely?

Here are some reasons why many Indonesians like to ask when to get married and when to have children in the moment of Eid:

In the culture of our society, especially in the extended family environment, marriage and descent are often considered important achievements in a person's life. Therefore, family members feel it is natural to ask about the development of a person's personal life.

Many people ask this question not with bad intentions, but as a form of concern. They want to know the news and plans of our lives in the future, although sometimes this question actually feels invasive.

In many cultures, getting married and having children is considered a natural phase in life. Therefore, this question often arises without realizing that it could be that people who are asked are experiencing pressure or difficulties in this aspect.

In order to maintain the feelings of others and so that relationships can remain harmonious, it is better to avoid personal questions during Eid. The following are important reasons why it is better not to ask:

Not everyone is comfortable talking about their personal life, especially in terms of marriage and having children. Some people may be in a phase of finding a suitable partner, experiencing financial problems, or even facing health problems that make it difficult for them to have children.

This question can be a stress trigger for someone. Those who are not married can feel anxious or depressed because it is as if there are expectations that must be met. Likewise with couples who do not have children, they can feel cornered by this question.

Each individual has a different life journey. Some choose to get married later, some focus on careers, and some may decide not to have children. Imposing social standards on someone will only make them feel not good enough or different from others.

Here are some examples of answers that you can use to respond to the question of when to get married and have children:

That's a review of how to respond to the question of when to get married and have children during Eid. If you get such a question, respond wisely, well with humor. Also read tips on managing THR after Eid.

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