Moral Preparation Before Marriage To Prevent Domestic Violence

Marriage is not only about celebrating love, but also requires careful preparation, both mentally, emotionally, and morally.

This readiness is important so that couples are able to face various challenges in the household and avoid conflicts that can lead to serious problems such as ghosting or Domestic Violence (KDRT).

Professor of the Faculty of Psychology, University of Indonesia, Prof. Dr. Rose Mini Agoes Salim, M.Psi, emphasized the importance of having a strong moral basis before marriage. According to him, morals allows a person to distinguish between good and bad, but if they are not well trained, it can be neglected.

"Setiap manusia sebenarnya memiliki moral, karena Tuhan telah memberikan kemampuan untuk membedahui yang benar dan yang salah. Namun, jika tidak distimulatekan dengan baik, moral itu bisa tidak berkembang dengan optimal," ujar psikolog yang akrab disapa Romi seperti dikutip ANTARA.

He explained that morals need to be trained thoroughly, including developing empathy, understanding the ability of others, and honing self-control and awareness.

Lack of self-control can cause a person to lose confidence, difficulty expressing feelings, and lack of empathy for their partner. Therefore, in choosing a partner, it is important to pay attention to whether they have positive traits such as kindness, respect, tolerance, and fair attitude (faimen).

"These attitudes will shape the character of a person who is morally good and able to create a harmonious family," he added.

In addition to moral readiness, couples also need to have skills in solving household problems. Romi explained that in marriage, conflict is a natural thing, but the most important thing is how couples deal with it.

"It is necessary to have the ability to analyze problems and find solutions together. Couples must fight together to face challenges, not even avoid them to do ghosting," he said.

Communication is also a key factor in maintaining household harmony. Couples must learn to convey their feelings in the right and assertive way, namely expressing their desire without hurting their partner's feelings.

On the other hand, aggressive communication such as shouting, cursing, or even committing physical violence can be the main trigger for domestic violence. Likewise, passive communication is characterized by indirect satire or words that hurt.

Furthermore, Romi suggested that prospective couples get to know each other's personalities before marriage. This is important so that they do not experience difficulties in adapting after building a household.

"Adaptation in marriage means finding a middle point for each partner's expectations. If this cannot be done, then continued conflict will be difficult to avoid," he concluded.