What Not To Do When Communicating With An Introvert Partner?
JAKARTA - Communicating is a way to maintain a harmonious relationship. What if the partner is introverted? The way to communicate is very flexible, there are no definite rules but it needs to be adjusted according to the nature, character and conditions of each.
An introvert is a personality type introduced by Carl Jung since the 1960s. Introverts tend to be quiet, calm, and more introspective. However, introverts are not always shy, although there are also people who are quiet because they are shy.
If your partner is introverted, you can communicate in an effective way. The way to communicate is not many sentences. As it is with a few words without a lack of meaning. No wonder your introverted partner prefers to think for himself.
Because you don't talk much, avoid interrupting the conversation with him. When having time together, it means that the introverted partner already has this 'it's a good time' consideration. If you need to say something important, try to give him the opportunity to prepare the time and mood.
People with introverted characters like serenity. He hates being rushed, messy, and unprepared. That means, make yourself calm first before conveying anything important to him.
Healthy communication is equal. No one dominates anyone and keeps no secrets. To build healthy communication, mutual agreement is needed. You and your partner can agree on timing.
The fourth way, healthy communication is not only telling stories and sharing information. Communicating also requires listening to each other. According to Irene Fehr, coach of intimacy and sexuality, communication is also about listening to each other.
Not only responding to each other but also learning to position yourself appropriately. This means that communication requires a sense of security and comfort for both parties.
Fifth, minimize misunderstandings by communicating optimally. This method makes a relationship with a partner, even an introvert, can be built harmoniously. The most important thing in communicating is not duration and intensity, but quality.
You can communicate once a week, but the quality of communication is necessary. For example, by understanding the language of love with a partner. You certainly already know your partner, if he is busy in the morning then he doesn't have intensive communication at that time.
Things that should not be done in communicating with a partner include underestimating, based on assumptions without digging into the real facts, blaming, and being selfish.