Why Do Teens Sadfish, Seek Attention Or Need Help? This Is The Expert's Explanation

YOGYAKARTA – Sadfishing is a new term referring to the emotional state associated with needing help or seeking attention. The term was coined by Rebecca Reid in 2019. Reporting Verywell Family, Tuesday, July 5, journalist Reid said Kendall Jenner was sadfishing when she complained of pimples growing on her face and then campaigned for an acne medication ad.

The term sadfishing then circulated widely. But, what exactly do teens experience when they post real emotional issues with genuine intentions on social media? According to psychotherapist Amy Morin, LSCW., teens are just learning how to express themselves and may use social media in ways adults would never think of.

There's nothing wrong with younger adults posting about their difficulties garnering sympathy and advertising. It's also okay if the post can raise awareness about an issue. That is, to gauge the exact reason why a teenager shares emotional problems on social media is quite difficult.

While difficult to measure, parents need to know when children are being authentic and dealing with real mental health issues or when they are simply engaging in attention-seeking behavior, says Morin.

"Sadfishing may be a sign that a teenager is craving more attention," adds Morin.

They may receive less positive attention from their peers. Or, they may be hurt and unsure how to communicate needs effectively. So they try to test how much other people care about their problems based on how other people respond.

"Parents should be wary of talking about self-harm or suicide and drug use," Morin said.

Parents also need to understand the signs their child is feeling hopeless or helpless. By building emotional closeness with teenagers, which in fact they are starting to be independent and are looking for identity. In addition, parents also need to observe every post of their children on social media. Ask them how they are doing and why they decided to post their feelings online.

In addition, parents also need to be good listeners. Respond wisely without judgment. Or, try to make things better by saying "I understand what you're going through" or "It sounds like you're going through a really hard time."

Amy Morin also advised, never belittle or underestimate what your teen is going through. Kristin Rinehart, Director of Behavioral Health at Muskingum Valley Health Centers, advises against making hurtful remarks. This can make them even more silent and introverted.

As additional advice, parents need to guide their children on healthier ways to share their feelings through social media because they are vulnerable to cyberbullying. In addition, it is also necessary to teach them how to identify feelings, cooperate, and create a safe space for them.