So You Don't Get Tired Of Dealing With Toxic People, Do These 7 Ways
JAKARTA – Toxic people are often understood as a term for people who tire or make them stressed. By definition, toxic people may be a label whose reference is very subjective, according to the context of the relationship, and not specific. Although psychologically categorized as someone who has a personality disorder that needs to be examined clinically.
But when meeting or dealing with someone who is toxic and makes those around them feel uncomfortable, you can take smart ways to avoid wasting energy.
1. Setting physical boundariesSetting physical boundaries is important, especially when it comes to allocating how much time you want to devote to the people in your life. When a toxic person is in your social circle, there is a need to limit how much contact that person has.
2. Build emotional boundariesA person may not be able to choose co-workers, classmates, or bosses. This means that it is impossible to control things outside of yourself, but you can still control your emotional limits so that your emotional energy is not drained. So, stop complaining about them in your spare time. Because this helps remind yourself so that you don't get carried away and feel tired.
3. Control yourselfYou can't control what other people do, but you can manage energy so it's not wasted. Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, January 10, Amy Morin, LCSW., psychotherapist and author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, suggests focusing on controlling how you respond to other people.
4. Keep your own promisesBad relationships are made worse if they are clouded by flexible promises. That is, if you have set certain limits then follow it up.
5. Control the mindTeran Morin, thinking things like “he always ruins my day” or “he makes me feel bad” actually gives toxic people power over your mind. So, have a healthier conversation with yourself. Morin's advice, respond by reminding yourself of your choices and that you don't have to follow a toxic line.
6. Practice healthy coping strategiesCoping strategies are a way to deal with stress, and according to Morin, are needed so they don't drain your energy. Try experimenting with situational coping skills, from gratitude to meditation.
7. Prioritize personal well-beingPersonal well-being is not only about the amount of savings or the amount of money you have. But it's closely related to what priority you've got and not having to come into contact with toxic people. Well, how to solve it, identify your priorities. Then live according to the values you have and negotiate with the tiring situation.
Morin's advice, someone needs a way to build mentally strong. Without mental 'exercise', namely by controlling energy and establishing healthy boundaries, a person may not have strong mental 'muscles'.