Difficult To Forget Past Mistakes, Experts Call Fixing Your Mind In These 3 Ways
JAKARTA - Memories of the past can connect you with the part of yourself that has been left behind. However, constantly thinking about the past or thinking about events that have happened, can make you depressed. This in particular happens if you are too fixated on past negative events or emotions. Like hard to stop thinking about past mistakes.
Although it takes time and effort, managing these thoughts needs to be done for the sake of self-being. Understanding the reasons behind the difficulty of forgetting the past can be a good start. Then, let alone?
Ask J. Peterson, a mental health educator in Eugene, Oregon, told Psych Central, Wednesday, March 29, explaining three ways to make peace with past mistakes.
Focusing on the past while degrading oneself over the mistakes that have occurred. Instead, strengthen negative thoughts and can cause stress. For that, stop blaming yourself. Continue to reflect and regret that things will not change anything. The past can't be changed, but you still have the opportunity to create a better future.
Focusing on important things right now can help you stop thinking about mistakes. Instead of thinking about unwanted things, try to deliberately identify what you want in life. This can be a relationship, work, hobbies, or a place to spend life.
When you find yourself thinking, gently turn your attention to the picture of life you want Peterson's advice.
If thoughts start to turn around in the past, try controlling those thoughts and imaginary forwards to the present or the future. Peterson explains that grounding or mindfulness techniques allow you to direct negative thoughts. So, whenever memories of the past appear in your mind, try to get back to the present.
For example, look ahead to you and try to find every detail of the first thing you see. You can see the shape, texture, color, pattern, and position then try to realize these things. This can help make you aware that you are living today and the past has passed.